Monday, May 31, 2010

Risqué Women are the New Revolutionaries

Madonna/Whore Complex

Why does it seem that if a woman acts sexual, "dirty," or "inappropriate," she is considered a whore? Sexism stems from a hatred or fear of women, not from the idea that men see women acting like "sluts," so they automatically objectify them in those situations. That is not how sexism starts. If anything, women should be allowed to be risque instead of being condemned for it. It has been argued over centuries how a woman should always be "proper" and "ladylike" because a man will never see anything but sex in a whore. A woman should always keep her legs closed and her shirt all-the-way buttoned because this, ladies, will keep you from being raped. The women who dress like prostitutes are asking to be taken advantage of. The actual term for this is the Madonna/ whore complex. The desirable, pure woman is the Madonna--suitable for marriage, and procreation. The other kind of woman is the whore--suitable for sex only, and destined to be considered the scum of the earth. You see, sex is for men, apparently. And these women are so detestable that men only want sex with them. Does anyone else see a problem with that? That is like saying, I hate abortion so much, I am going to work at a Planned Parenthood clinic as a doctor, performing these abortions so that I can prove a point and then tell them that they are the scum of the earth for letting me do what I just did. What kind of point does that prove besides the fact that you are a heinous hypocrite?

Too Revealing?

The funny thing is that how a woman dresses has nothing to do with rape statistics. If this was the case, then why do so many infants, children, elderly women, and even boys get raped? They aren't dressed like hookers. So how can people say that the way they dress "grabs negative attention?" If I was a man, I would be offended because that is like saying that if I see cleavage, I am not going to be able to control myself and will end up raping that woman standing over there. It is not a feasible explanation. The way women dress or act has no effect on how men treat them. Of course, many would argue this, but let's consider the reasons why I say this.

People say that if a woman dresses too revealing, men are only going to see her as a "piece of ass." Now, how many men do you know only pursue women in short skirts and low-cut tops? I have seen men hit on all kinds of women, from nuns to cashiers at 7-eleven. What they wear does not matter. Sure, they may get more of a sexual response with certain outfits as opposed to others, but the fact of the matter is that men do not try and obtain sex only from the scantily clad girls they run into. We don't look at a guy and complain that his package is showing too much because they can see a little bulge in the pants. Besides, trying to attract a mate is instinct. Female baboons will show male baboons their asses when trying to attract a mate. Those skanky baboons! Don't they know that the males are only going to want their ass? :/

Never Kiss on the First Date

Now let's take those who "kiss on the first date," (among other issues). This is a much more subtle form of associated sluttiness, but let's really think about the issue. As once said by Samantha Jones in Sex and the City, a guy can just as easily dump you on the first date or the tenth, regardless of when you have sex or any kind of intimate relations. It is better to regard the three-date rule for reasons that you want to make things interesting for your date, not because it is a "slutty" thing to do. A choice is a choice. When men have sex, they are praised in this society, but women are scorned. It cannot work both ways, because who would the men have sex with? And having sex with other men is just as risque. So, essentially, they have to have sex with the women to receive the praise, and, likewise, women have to avoid sex to receive an ounce of respect. They can't have sex and not have sex at the same time. The laws of physics prove this not to be true! So where do we draw the line? Oftentimes, it is seen that women give in to sexual advances because of their self-esteem issues or previous experiences with rape or assault. This is merely a shallow "desperation" argument to keep people from having to face the issue that these women want to have sex. Women do not need to have been raped to explain why they want it. Perhaps they want sex because they, too, have sexual desires just as much as men do. Why would there be such thing as the clitoris, which is solely for the purpose of pleasure? Then again, people combat this idea by removing it through female genital mutilation, but that's a whole other story.

Sex is an Industry

Moreover, we have the institution of pornography and prostitution. Now this is a tricky situation. The sex industry is one of many problems because of the direct objectification and defamation that goes along with it. But let's really look into this. It is true that there are some horrible acts desired in certain kinds of pornography, however, the idea of naked women in the public eye is a completely different matter. If a man was shown in a porn getting stimulated in the ass with a large vibrator, would people complain that it was objectifying him? To me, this just seems like it is making women fall into this "victim" category. And, when animals mate in public, possibly with more than one mate (much like an orgy) is this defamation of the sanctity of life? I would argue that it is not. Of course, animals are different, and humans are noted for their higher levels of thinking and reactions within personal relationships. So, I understand the sanctity of having sex with a partner with whom you feel deeply attached/connected to. However, I cannot condemn acts of sex displayed in pornography on the basis of objectification. If I was to condemn anything, it would be the pornography that is specifically geared towards objectification/rape/etc. Pornography itself is NOT, people just assume that showing sex for stimulation purposes IS. This is not to say that I do not think that porn stars have the possibility of living a sad life. Many women become porn stars because of dysfunctional family relationships and sexual abuse. When people act out in that way, it does, indeed, make me sad. But, when women (or men) on their own free will decide to be apart of the sex industry because they enjoy what they do without any motivation from a haunting past, then I praise them for doing what they want to do while facing so much criticism.

Rape Isn't Female

Where does rape fit in to all this? Well, I understand that rape and sexual assault are huge issues. However, rape has become strictly a "female" problem that further victimizes women. Anyone can be raped. So why is it that the majority are women? Rape is all about power, and women have been manipulated for so long into believing certain things about themselves that are not even true. It is easy to tell almost any woman that her self-esteem issues result from the Media. Almost any would agree. But could you just walk up to a man and tell him that he is the way he is because of what his childhood was like? Some might go with it, but others would easily be able to argue this. Why? Because men aren't constantly told that they are going to inevitably have problems because that's what men do. Females are told this, however. Therefore, they are so easily taken advantage of, without even understanding the complexities of this issue. Women are told that they can never go anywhere alone or walk on the streets late at night. All this fear just causes more chaos. Rape has nothing to do with sexual attraction or feelings. NOTHING. It is all about power and control. The people who are manipulated the most, i.e. women, minorities, gays and lesbians, disabled, and any other group that relates, are the ones who get taken advantage of the most.

Why Not Be Wild?

So, here we get back to the wild women of the west. Is it such a bad thing? If anything, the people telling us that sexism is caused from how we act are the ones who are sexist because they are defining what women should be like. If there's one thing that I know, independence is a turn on. They say that women need to be the cute, proper little housewives that depend on men to kill spiders in the shower and take them shopping every so often. But, do men actually like this? I would say that the majority of men that I have met do not. Men love a firey, wild, independent, and intelligent woman who knows what she wants and how to get it. After all, people want their space, and an independent woman is more likely to give it to men than a needy go-with-the-flow housewife. This is a good creates unpredictability in a relationship. It creates a longing to be with someone, because, well, life cannot be that easy. There needs to be some kind of dysfunction for it to even work.

“Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free til they find someone just as wild to run with them.” (Sex and the City)

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Agalmatophilia: Love in the Age of Silicon

What is Agalmatophilia?

Agalmatophilia, also called Statuephilia or Pygmalionism after the myth of Pygmalion, is an uncommon sexual fetish or paraphilia. Essentially, it is a form of sexual attraction to statues (usually but not exclusively nudes), and possibly lifelike mannequins and dolls as well. This fetish also crosses over into a transformation fetishism in the form of fantasies about people transformed into any of those objects. For many, the idea of immobility or loss of control is arousing. There are also fantasies about paralysis which sometimes cross over into hypnofetishism and robot fetishism. Statuephilia has a small but highly devoted community. In fact, a number of famous art photographers have extensively featured sexualized life-sized dolls in their work, such as: Hans Bellmer, Bernard Faucon, Helmut Newton, Morton Bartlett, Katan Amano, Kishin Shinoyama, and Ryoichi Yoshida.

Discovering Agalmatophila

Agalmatophilia has been around just as long as sex has: all throughout time. The idea originated with the myth in which Pygmalion, a Greek sculptor, fell in love with a statue that he had carved. According to Ovid, after seeing the Propoetides prostituting themselves, Pygmalion, somewhat of a misogynist, became 'uninterested in women', and his statue was so realistic that he fell in love with it. He offered the statue gifts and eventually prayed to Aphrodite to bring her to life. Aphrodite ended up granting his wish, and the statue soon married Pygmalion, also giving birth to a child. This myth is one the first depictions of a kind of agalmatophilia. It was not until the publication of Richard von Krafft-Ebbing's Psychopathia Sexualis that there was a clinical study conducted on this fetish. Ebbing recorded the case in 1877 of discovering a gardener falling in love with a statue of the Venus de Milo and attempting coitus with it.

An important fantasy for some individuals is being transformed into the preferred object (such as a statue) and experiencing a state of immobility or paralysis. These fantasies may possibly be extended to role-playing in a manner of being transformed into what appears to be a "rubber doll" or a "latex doll." It is particularly common for people to have sexual arousal associated with objects and substances.

Doll Fetishism

Within statuephilia is a branch of the fetish referred to as doll fetishism where individuals become aroused by seeing their partners' unique characteristics minimized and transformed into more uniform doll-like features. The "doll" can be male or female, and usually altered to have the body type of a Barbie. To get that shape for the doll, they put on a desirable wig, breast forms, a tight corset giving the "doll" a small waist, a strap on vagina if male, buttock augmentation pads, and a revealing outfit. To show off the new proportions, the outfit is generally made of tight leather, latex, or spandex. There are virtual worlds which offer unique opportunities for exploring this fetish, where individuals are represented by modifiable avatars. People are able to adorn themselves with fake skin, hair, and costumes, even going so far as to being identified by a number instead of name. There are also some fetish sites that feature videos and animated pictures of individuals achieving orgasm onto or by use of dolls or figurines. There is even a considerable large market targeting people with these desires. The RealDoll is a life-size sex doll manufactured by Abyss Creations in San Marcos, California. It has a PVC skeleton with steel joints and silicone flesh, and is advertised as "the state-of-the-art for life-like human body simulation." Female dolls include realistic openings in their vagina, mouth and anus. Male dolls can include a penis of varying size and flaccidity, based on the buyer's specifications. These dolls are also able to be bended and altered into different poses. A RealDoll is relatively expensive, averaging $5000 and up depending upon what accessories are selected.

Robot Fetishism

Another extension of statuephilia is robot fetishism, sometimes called ASFR or technosexuality. This is a fetishistic attraction to humanoid or non-humanoid robots. This can also be extensive to a fetish involving people achieving orgasm by acting like robots or seeing people dressed in robot costumes. A less common fantasy involves transformation into a robot, however it is still directly related to agalmatophilia. Robot fetishism is sometimes viewed as a form of erotic anthropomorphism and when the idea of transformation or role-playing is involved, it can be thought of as a form of erotic objectification.

By its enthusiasts, robot fetishism is more commonly referred to by the initials ASFR. The initials are based off of the phrase from the now defunct newsgroup Many of these enthusiasts refer to themselves as technosexual or as "ASFRians." For some, robotic appearance, motion, and sound are important for arousal. For others, a completely life-like android that appears to be human is desired. The ability to remove parts of skin or other bodily appendages in order to reveal circuitry is quite pleasing to some, and equally distasteful to others. Some prefer an android to appear human-like and others prefer a more mechanical looking robot with a metallic surface. ASFR is divided into two distinct but sometimes overlapping types of robotic fantasy.

The first of group is simply based off of a desire to have a ready-made android or gynoid partner that is desired for sex, companionship, or any combination of the two. The main distinguishing feature of this type is that the android is a completely artificial "built" and manufactured solely to fulfill the desires of its owner.

The second type of fantasy is referred to as transformation. This involves a human who is either willingly or unwillingly turned into an android. That person can be either oneself or one's partner, or sometimes both. It is usually the process of transformation that is the focus of this fantasy.

Many people in the ASFR community prefer either one or the other. In some cases, this preference is very strong and divisive within the community. People may even be repulsed by the behaviors of the opposite group. In other cases, there is equal appreciation for built and transformation. A recent informal survey of technosexual members found that three fifths prefer built while the remainder prefer transformation or some combination of both. Some ASFRians may not even wish to use synthetic partners at all, and instead would prefer human partners to participate in their fantasies.

This ASFR fetish can only be acted upon in a limited number of ways, primarily through fantasy, involving either self stimulation or sexual role-playing with a partner. ASFR art is therefore very important to aid in the reinforcement of imagination for sexual stimulation. ASFR art content includes science fiction movies, television shows, novels, short stories, illustrations, manipulated photographs, pornographic content, songs and even television commercials. However, recent developments in robotics and can lead to the production of more advanced synthetic partners than the what is capable with mannequins and dolls such as the RealDoll.

Agalmatophilia in the Arts

Agalmatophilia is sometimes featured in the arts, prominently in Luis Buñuel's L'Âge d'or, where the female protagonist sucks a statue's toe, and in Tarsem Singh's thriller The Cell. The film is based on a serial killer named Carl Stargher who drowns his victims, who are all young women, and then bleaches their bodies so that they resemble dolls. He then proceeds to masturbate as he hangs himself above the corpses. Later on, there is a scene which takes place inside his mind. Here, a psychiatrist finds a collection of grotesque, corpse-dolls inside display cases attached to crude machinery that jerks them about in sadomasochistic sexual poses. This grotesque act is a representation of how the killer perceives his victims.

The film Metropolis also explores this fetish. In this film, the mad inventor Rotwang kidnaps the heroine Maria. He's created a robot to be a replacement for a woman he loved, but it needed a soul so he imprints the image of Maria onto his Robot. The scene itself is filled with the trappings of the mad scientist film before there ever was a visualized Dr. Frankenstein's lab. There seems to be a reoccurring theme with mad scientists creating robots or dolls that come to life. There is the Bride of Frankenstein. There are a number of pulp serials full of hypnotized femmes such as Star Trek, The Twilight Zone, and My Living Doll. Around the 60's, however, it seems that the films and shows are starting to drop all the trappings of what is called "The Frankenstein Complex." The robot men and women are no longer trapped by programming gone awry, where they become out of control and wreak havoc on an arrogant humanity. We now see the beginning of artificial beings that are just as "alive" as their organic counterparts.

As we progress into the 70's and 80's, we find more and more instances of "The Pinocchio Syndrome," where benevolent and sometimes not so benevolent artificial creations want to be "real, live" people. Of course we still see the Frankenstein Complex in such creations such as Blade Runner, Westworld, The Stepford Wives, and Star Trek, but now there is an added tone of eroticism. The robot is no longer just an artificial creation meant to carry out the labors of mankind. In Westworld and The Stepford Wives, there is a noted misogynist backlash against women by an ever more emasculated male population, resulting in machine-like control over these individuals. Priss is even cited as "Your Basic Pleasure Model" in Blade Runner. These mechanical counterparts develop evolved thoughts and feelings of their own much as depicted in human beings. Even Austin Powers and The Terminator depict this fantasy in an artistic form.

The Mindset of Doll Fetishists

Pygmalionism & Mind Control have their own followings in such a way that people into them might not ever look at a robot story or picture. But the concepts are quite similar to technosexuality in a lot of respects.

A fascination with control seems to be a constant between the three main areas. There's usually the constant of someone being in control and the constant of someone, or something, being controlled. For many, the control seems to involve a kind of Startup/Shutdown behavior as well as the immobile and pose-able aspects. The idea is that someone has exerted control over another person's body or mind, rendering them into an artificial seeming being or object. For others, the idea of stripping a person of their will and/or personality into a mindlessly obedient and programmable "robot" generates the highest forms of arousal. Often in overtly robotic themed Mind-Control media, the presence of transformation stories, turning the free-willed person into the object of desire mentally, and sometimes physically, are very evident. Some are even into the idea of the robot, doll, or mannequin malfunctioning or being severely damaged.

Understanding Agalmatophilia

The fetishisms associated with agalmatophilia are not necessarily misogynistic and objectifying even they may seem to be. Although men who participate in these fetishes outnumber women 10 to 1, there are many women who participate as well. The sexual stimulation results more from a need of control and sexual gratification without emotion from either counterpart. It can be easily misunderstood as a shallow, cruel, and heartless depiction of sexual stimulation, and although this may be true for some, it is not true for all. Some use this as a way of performing derogatory acts without actually harming anyone. Whether this is a good thing or not, it is more of a concern when people perform these acts on actual people. Fetishism is like a sickness for some and just a feeling for others. There is not a good way to describe it because it varies so much in individuals, and it is hard for people to distance themselves from many acts that seem grotesque and cruel. Agalmatophilia is a difficult concept to comprehend, especially when considering the mental states behind these fantasies. However, one should always consider whether the actions harm real individuals or not. In some cases, this is just a derogatory fantasy. For others, this is just sexual gratification that stems from loneliness or the lack of confidence in an ability to find a partner.

Works Cited
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Thursday, May 6, 2010

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Benefits of Being a Woman

1. We got off the Titanic first.
2. We can scare male bosses with mysterious gynecological disorder excuses.
3. Our boyfriends' clothes look gorgeous on us -- guys look like complete idiots in ours.
4. We can be groupies.
5. Male groupies are stalkers.
6. We've never lusted after a cartoon character or the central figure in a computer game.
7. Taxis stop for us.
8. Men die sooner, so we get to cash in on the life insurance.
9. We don't look like a frog in a blender when dancing.
10. Free drinks.
11. Free dinners.
12. We can hug our friends without wondering if they think we're gay.
13. We can hug our friends without wondering if we're gay.
14. New lipstick gives us a whole new lease on life.
15. Condoms make no significant difference in our enjoyment of sex.
16. It's possible to live our whole lives without ever taking a group shower.
17. No fashion faux pas we make could rival the Speedo.
18. We can congratulate our teammate without ever touching her ass.
19. If we have a zit, we know how to conceal it.
20. We never have to reach down every so often to make sure our privates are still there.
21. We don't have to memorize Caddyshack or Fletch to fit in.
22. We have an excuse to be totally cranky at least once a month.
23. We can talk to people of the opposite sex without automatically picturing them naked.
24. Our friends won't think we're weird if we ask whether there's spinach in our teeth.
25. We have the ability to dress ourselves.